Relationship Advice
Jake & Hannah Eagle offer relationship advice based on Green Psychology
Lovers, mothers, brothers and more . . . How can you make your relationships easier and more wonderful? This relationship advice page will introduce you to a series of blog posts, articles, and audio recordings addressing this ancient subject—but with a fresh perspective. Relationship advice is offered all the time, but much of it doesn’t work because it comes out of the old paradigm in which we hold others responsible for how we feel.
“You made me angry!”
“You hurt my feelings.”
“You don’t respect me.”
And on and on and on . . .
Operating from within that paradigm, there’s little hope of creating easy, sustainable, loving relationships. If you want to learn how to do that, read and listen to the following relationship advice. By the way, here’s the first thing to know—the word “relationship” is part of the problem. The word “relationship” is a noun, it’s static. What we’re talking about is RELATING—a verb, an active, alive, dynamic process.
People who offer relationship advice often ask, “How’s your relationship?” They should be asking, “How are you relating?” Because once you start focusing on how you’re relating, you’ve moved yourself from a passive observer to an active creator.
Relationship Advice Grounded in Twenty Years of Experience
The advice that we offer is based on what we’ve learned from our failures (both of us were married before), as well as our success—having been really happy together for the past twenty years. When we say “failures,” we want to be clear that we’re not dissing our earlier partners, they were good people, but we didn’t know how to make good and healthy partnerships with them. Shortly after we came together in 1991, we sought out good help. We worked with a talented therapist who taught us how to relate in new, mature, loving ways, and how to create a healthy partnership. Years later, we met John and Joyce Weir, our mentors. They were eighty-five years old at the time and they had shared a rich life together. They generously passed on to us much of what they learned, and we want to do the same . . .
We’re in the process of creating an online course for people interested in this subject. The course will explore the different phases of relating—we call it Dating Relating Mating, and we hope to have it available in the first half of 2012. But for now, enjoy the posts, articles, and audio recordings that follow . . .
