Overcoming Self-Destructive Behavior
Jake Eagle — Saturday, December 31st, 2011
Overcoming self destructive behavior is of particular interest to people around the time of the New Year—a time when many of us make resolutions to stop self destructive behavior and make healthier choices.
What follows are three audio recordings of a conversation in which Jake Eagle is interviewed by Mike Bundrant, publisher of Healthy Times Newspaper, about self destructive behavior. The first recording explores the causes behind self destructive behavior. Listen and learn which causes may apply to you.
Overcoming Self Destructive Behavior: The Cause
The second recording reveals why superficial solutions tend not to work. And the conversation considers what solutions are necessary to make lasting change and eliminate self destructive behavior in your life.
Overcoming Self Destructive Behavior: The Solution
The third recording is a real time example that organically develops when Mike reveals his own self destructive behavior related to weight and diet. And this surprisingly leads to a conversation about marriage, obligation, and intimacy.
Overcoming Self Destructive Behavior: A Real Life Example
In this final segment you will hear Jake make a couple of references to Green Speak, aka: Perceptual Language, as he counsels Mike to change his language so that he empowers himself.
For example, at one point Mike says, “…that makes me anxious.” At another point he says, “…it makes me anxious.” Jake encourages Mike to change his language and say, “I anxious myself…” (or, “I make myself anxious…”). The purpose of this is to help Mike realize that he is the one who’s creating his anxiety. As Jake explains, intimacy doesn’t cause everyone to feel anxious, which means that Mike may have a choice in how he responds to intimacy. And the place to start is by changing his language in such a way that he empowers himself to have a choice.
The second example is one when Mike says, “…there’s more to it.” Jake suggests Mike use Perceptual Language, changing his language to, “…there’s more to me.” This is a way of helping people become more connected with themselves. Many times we use words like “it” as a way to distance ourselves and disconnect from what we’re feeling.
If Perceptual Language and Green Speak are unfamiliar to you, and you’re uncertain about why Jake makes certain suggestions, write a comment below and we’ll provide a more detailed explanation—or contact us directly.
Tags: Beliefs, Intimacy, Language, Marriage, Personal Growth, Self discovery
